I know striking a balance between caring for our loved ones, doing good work and caring for ourselves can be tricky. We tend to forget the latter when there is a lot on our plate.
However, make sure you nurture your own self will help you have more energy, be more creative, and more abundant.
There are a few things that are really important to me and I make sure I do them often and when needed. You can read my other post ‘Unique Map to Happiness’ to come up with your own list of self-care rituals and ideas.
1 – Detox bath Ritual
Once (sometimes twice) a week I take a long detox bath. I take this time to also do a lot of energy clearing work on myself. I run a very hot bath and choose one of my homemade detox salt. My detox salts are a mixture of Epson Salt, Pink Himalayan Salt, a blend of essential oils for either emotional uplifting or muscle relaxant, as well as flower essences. I sometimes add Bentonite Clay to the mix and a bag of raw Shungite stones in the bathtub.
Since I do a lot of heavy energetic work for people, it’s really important that I completely ground the slug that sometimes remains attached to my energy field.
If you work in any field where emotions get stirred up, you must take regular measures to ground this energy and keep your Aura clear of any acquired emotions.
This time for myself is something I’ve always prioritize, even when my child was young and there was just me.
2 – Accessorizing your beauty ritual
I must admit I was quite skeptical of these jade and quartz rollers, but I’ve been won over. I bought a few for the boutique and kept one for myself. I have been using mine almost every day.
I love the feel and the effect of rolling this quartz massager over my face. I have such dry skin and I really feel it has made a difference in how my face looks and feels. It’s also refreshing since quartz tends to be cool to the touch.
Apply your serum or lotion, then start rolling. Starting at the chin, move upward along the jawline, the side of the face to the center of the forehead along the hairline. Roll from the center of the face, from chin to forehead until you have rolled the whole face. Then roll your neck from the bottom to the top. For the best result, it’s recommended to roll for at least 3 minutes.
3 – Enjoying a cup of tea
I really enjoy making myself a cup of tea in the afternoon and evening. Choosing my herbs, boiling the water, steeping the leaves for me is a wonderful ritual. I am really good at making myself busy, so making tea allows me to stop for a moment.
The same way crystals and gemstones have unique frequencies that can support our well-being so do herbs and flowers. I started intuitively mixing herbs and the results were quite popular with friends and the participants at my meditations. That is why I decided to create my own line of ritualistic teas, which you can buy in the store or online. All the herbs and flowers are organic and ethically sourced.
As you sip your tea, take a moment to visualize your dreams. To see yourself as and where you want to be. Call in the powers of nature to help you realize those ideals. Envelop yourself in a sense of joy that comes from the little moments like this.
4 – Reading
Although I wish I had more time to read, I do make time whenever I can to read books that are either inspiring or that help me further my skills and knowledge. Here are a few books that I think are noteworthy and helpful when you are starting on a self-honoring path:
Inspiring fiction: Tuesdays with Morrie, The Alchemist, Medicine Woman Series by Lynn Andrews
Healing/ Spirituality: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die, Radical Forgiveness, The Four Agreements, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success
5 – Space clearing rituals
There is something about a clean and organized space. It feels more expansive. But I have a little secret… it’s very difficult for me to keep a clutter-free and well-organized space. It takes a lot of effort. There is an inner battle between being organized and needing to see what I am working on… So whenever my space starts to become chaotic, I know I need to take the time to reorganized things. And I feel so much better after.
Not only do I look at the physical aspect of the space, but the energetic aspect as well. Stagnant energy can quickly gather in all areas and keep us in the states we are trying to lift ourselves from. If there is disharmony, a feeling of drain, or lack of joy and abundance you may want to look into the energies that are saturating your home.
Although sage can be helpful, it is often not the right element to cleanse the common home energies.
6 – Do something from ‘your list’
I recently had my birthday and a friend of mine told me about a bucket list of X things to do this year. X equaling the number of years you’ve been on this Earth. I thought this was an interesting concept. And can be helpful in moving things forward without creating pressure to accomplish big life bucket items. Your list doesn’t have to include large, expensive experiences.
For example, I have put the following on my list: buy myself flowers, bake a cake with my daughter, spend a day doing nothing. I have also done this list with the help of my partner and daughter so they can be part of my special list.
Technically you could be doing anywhere from 3 to 5 of these per month to tick off all items before your next birthday. Every year you make a new list.
Doing what makes you feel good is what self-care is about. It’s not about indulging. You have to be brutally honest with yourself if your ‘pleasure’ is detrimental to your body, mind or spirit.
In the end, I believe self-care is doing what you enjoy and what makes you feel good. And that is important to do on a regular basis.
I have a fun exercise to help you make your list of self-care rituals. It’s a good thing to have on hand when we need to change our mood.